When “Too Late” Is Fear in Disguise
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When “Too Late” Is Fear in Disguise
There is a particular kind of failure that can nag at you for years.
Not failing at something you tried. Failing to try at all.
The book you were going to write. The business you wanted to start. Learning the guitar. Getting fit. Finally changing the way you eat. Painting, travelling, learning a language.
Eventually, I haven’t done it yet becomes it’s probably too late.
But “too late” can be a very useful excuse for the mind. If it really is too late, you don’t have to risk being a beginner. You don’t have to walk into a gym out of shape, change familiar habits, test the business idea, or find out whether the thing you want to create is actually any good.
The calendar takes the blame.
That is what struck me about Paul McCartney and the Rolling Stones this year. At 84, McCartney released The Boys of Dungeon Lane. It went to No. 1 in the UK and was shortlisted for the Mercury Prize. Mick Jagger, 83, Keith Richards, 82, and Ronnie Wood, 79, released Foreign Tongues. Critics treated it as genuinely strong new work — a late-career triumph, not a nostalgia exercise.
The evidence is kinder to late starters than our assumptions are. Research on exercise programmes for older adults shows substantial adherence; one systematic review found an average 80% of prescribed sessions completed. In business, the average founder of the fastest-growing 0.1% of U.S. startups was 45.
Whether it is your health, a hobby, a creative ambition or a business, starting later does not make the attempt meaningless. It may make it more deliberate.
The real question may not be whether you can still hit the goal. It is whether you have the courage to take the shot.
Failure hurts. But over time, regret tends to attach more strongly to the things we never tried.
If there is something you already suspect you may regret not doing, reach out. We can look at what is actually getting in the way, clear the path, and get you moving towards action.
You may not control the outcome. But you can stop regret making the decision for you.
Sources: Paul McCartney — Mercury Prize shortlist; UK No. 1; Rolling Stone — Foreign Tongues review; exercise adherence systematic review; age and high-growth entrepreneurship; research on long-term regret and inaction.
