Essays
When Depression Is a Refusal
One kind of depression may begin when a painful loss, disappointment, or denied future remains psychologically unresolved. This article explores how protest can turn inward—and what changes when the loss is finally allowed to become a loss.
I was Supposed to Be a Professor
At 39, I walked away from the academic future I thought I was building and started an all-Canadian wine import business in Tokyo. What looked like a detour was actually the same fascination in a different format.
Why a Better Life Can Feel Wrong
Why does moving into a new social world so often feel uncomfortable, disloyal, or somehow “not for people like me”? This essay explores how class shapes our assumptions, behaviour, and sense of belonging — and how those invisible rules can be seen, questioned, and changed.
Whose Behaviour Is It, Exactly?
Are you running your behavior, or is your behavior running you? This essay explores the difference between inherited patterns and chosen structure.
How I Stopped Wanting Junk Food After 48 Years
For decades, junk food held a nightly pull despite a serious commitment to health. What finally changed was not willpower, but a shift in meaning — from reward to refusal.
The Two Phases of a Life
There is a version of you that was built by circumstances you did not choose. This essay explores the inherited self, the chosen self, and why real change begins when you can observe a pattern instead of simply inhabiting it.